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Real (and Virtual) Men Wear Pink


In my real life profession, I deal with bullies on a frequent basis. Unfortunately, it seems when I log onto Second Life I see bullying as well. In the short time I have been writing for FabFree, I know there have been several harsh and hurtful things said about some of my fellow bloggers appearance, and before I had ever posted my first blog, questions of my sexuality had come into question. This is typical of bullies. They like to slander, torment, harass, and ridicule.

I’m not saying that people are not entitled to their own opinion. But when you post things that are in poor taste anywhere on the internet with the intention to hurt someone or their reputation, it is bullying.

 Bullying also takes the form of instilling fear into others. I’ve seen bullies in SL threaten to make trouble in people’s real lives. I’ve also witnessed people feeling threatened or spied upon by bullies. Bullies have no other way of persuasion except for intimidation.

 But what everyone has to remember is, a bully only has power over you if you let them. Show your pink today and let the bullies see they are outnumbered.

[!] Pink Day

Thanks to Mo Breen from [!] for the t-shirt. It can be found in the group notices in the FabFree group.


Author: Carson Caiben

Blogger for FabFree - Fabulously Free in SL, troublemaker, (according to certain fellow bloggers) can be quite vexing, but an all around good guy. Please send review copies in a folder with any information necessary such as, Hunt, Lucky Chair, Midnight Mania Board, Group Gift and dates the item will be available.

7 thoughts on “Real (and Virtual) Men Wear Pink

  1. I’m sad that you all have to deal with bullies as a consequence of bringing us all this fine blog. It seems like bullies fabricate stuff to get outraged about, because I can’t imagine what your sexual orientation has to do with blogging clothes any more than your eye color does.


  2. yeah this is a GOod shirt go go ! keep up the good work! *HINT


  3. I’m comforted to know I’m not the only victim of cyber bullying with regards to my first blog posts:-)) It was certainly hurtful, to say the least, especially for someone like me who had always believed firmly that if I don’t have anything nice to say, then don’t say it, unless the other person really wants my honest opinion. And honestly, when it comes to appearance, it’s so subjective that there really is no right or wrong about it. Anyway my conclusion is, these bullies are just insecure people, cowards who will hide behind their pseudonyms (if any at all!) and who are just taking advantage of the anonymity of the internet. Thanks for highlighting this in your post–it sure made my day already:-))


  4. Straight and blue eyed 😉


  5. Such soulful blue eyes too 😉


  6. My comment may be pretty late.

    As a noob in SL, what shape I wore never really mattered to me. But I can recall the time I wore a rather less endowed shape – an A cup size, only to be ridiculed by a whole bunch of women (yes, women!) at a sim I frequented.
    The funny thing was a guy at the scene sent me an IM saying, “they were really nasty to you, are you alright?”

    Cyberbullying is more frequent than bullying in RL cause people can get away saying things, they would never dream of saying to you in RL. But at the end of the day, prejudice/judging others is everywhere – men/women are always forced to conform to certain norms, and if they don’t, they are just given a hard time.

    PS: I still run around in any (dragon/woodstock/grandma/panda/ABCD cup) av I like, even if it scares some people. Social conformity is something that was never on my to-do list.


  7. Excellent article, as usual Carson!
    I think we have all been bullied in one way or another.
    Sometimes I think we just need to hit that ”mute” button a little quicker. Bullies need an audience, and its not much fun for them when nobody is listening.


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